Saturday, January 14, 2012

"Understanding Life, and Accepting It" - (Priya Shanmugham)

This was my second visit to “My Nannagaru”, and I now realize that there could have been no better way to end 2011. You may quite wonder why I say so. Am sure you should be able to understand as you read on.

With too many mishaps in life and a lot of insecurities about my future, I was in absolute desperation to understand where my life was heading toward. It was on one of those utterly confusing days, that I had got an invite to visit My Nannagaru. Now, who will refuse a treat on an empty stomach? I jumped at the opportunity.

As I prepared to meet him, I mentally prepared myself to open myself up to him, and tell him of all the things that have been eating up into my peace and quiet. I simply wanted to free myself from the uncomfortable trauma that had quite often become a part of my life.
I reached S.R. Nagar, where My Nannagaru was supposed to meet up with many others like me. I sat quietly, mentally reciting a dozen questions I wanted to get answers to.

In less than 10 minutes, My Nannagaru entered the room where we were all seated. He greeted everyone with a calm, yet pleasant gesture…like to reassure each of us very personally that everything is going to be alright.

He looked around, and occasionally stared at individuals for a few minutes in a stretch. He asked short questions to a couple of people, and looked happy with the answers he received in reciprocation.

While all this had been happening for not more than 4-5 minutes after him entering the room, I was unable to hold my pain any longer. I simply wanted to screen out “Nannagaru…this is what is bothering me…please help me out…I need you to ease me off my pain”. I was just about to open my mouth, when something amazing happened.

He looked at me, and enquired if I was new around. A beautiful woman I met during my previous visit went on to say I had met him during his last visit, and added on to brief him about my horrible past.

He looked at me…just looked straight into my eyes, and I began to cry profusely. I cried like I never cried before. Something forced me to simply stare back into his eyes, as I cried.

After a few minutes of silence, he spoke about these valuable lessons, not just to me, but to all of us that evening.

His Teaching:
Everything is pre-determined.
Every occurrence in our life is pre-determined. We need to understand this very well. Acceptance of life as-is is the best thing we can ever do to ourselves.

My Understanding of My Nannagaru’s message:
Life is an interesting book. Simply read along!

His Teaching:
Truth is always One – it just has multiple perceptions. There is always just one truth. It is up to us to believe this. He went on to explain this by saying that simply because we think 6 plus 4 equals 10, it is not so. Nobody stops us in believing so, just that, the sum never is greater or equal to 10, and it will always remain this way.

Understanding of Nannagaru’s message:
No matter how hard I try, I cannot undo what has happened in the past. But I can accept the truth that it did happen and feel good that it is finally over!

His Teaching:
Own it like it is never yours.
A servant takes cares of the people, and the house in which he works for with diligence, but never mistakes any of them for his own. Loss or gain in the household never affects the servant. He simply carries on with his duty at both such instances. It is because; he never associates them to be his own.

Understanding of Nannagaru’s message:
We react to instances, and relationships based on how we associate ourselves with them. If we are faithful to people around us, and still understand that they are never truly ours, we will never get bothered by any of their actions toward us. We accept their love and hatred likewise. Practicing this simply virtue will relieve us of most of our pain. We often question people with the “Why do they do this to me, despite me being so nice to them?” question. This is because, like My Nannagaru said, we invariably assume we own them and that they are to reciprocate the same way as we do. This is not always necessary

His Teaching:
No one is anyone to anyone .
There is a purpose for every single person we meet in our life, and this alone is truth. Enjoy what you learn from them, and never mistake one to stay with you forever.

Understanding of Nanangaru’s message:
Each relationship comes with an expiry date. Let’s learn to accept it!

45 minutes can mean different things to different people. Even to me, until that evening, it was surfing the net, reading a book, watching television, cleaning the home, chatting with a friend, or simply sit idle. But now, I can tell add one more to my list…45 minutes can also me “Understanding Life, and Accepting It”.

I never want to cheat myself or anyone by saying that My Nannagaru transformed me right that day. Definitely not. But, he gave me all that I needed to get back to my normal life, and look at things differently. It is more than a week I met him. And I am sure week is still not that long to realize certain life changing lessons.


  1. Bantu reethi kolu vivyavaiyya Nanna

    I seek to be your servant do grant me this O Nanna


  2. Thanks for the article............